Depression is a monster towards those it preys upon, leaving its
victims helpless and hopeless. In my observation and experience with
depression, I realize how uneducated and clueless people are when trying
to cope with this illness. I think education is the biggest weapon
against this monster; which gives the person struggling with it a hand
up.
There are two types of depression: situational depression and
clinical depression. There are those who are depressed because of some
intense happening in their lives; however, there are those who have
depression because of a chemical imbalance, and sometimes it is both
causing a person to have depressed feelings. Regardless of the mode that
depression comes, it still causes prey to feel hopeless, helpless,
suicidal, and not wanting to face life. In my experience with depression
all I wanted to do was sleep; sometimes sleeping for 72 hours at a time.
I felt like locking myself away in my house and isolating, because I was
too depressed to interact with my friends. Suicidal thoughts whirled in
my mind a majority of the time; which was very frightening and
debilitating.
Some of you reading this article can probably
relate to having depression at one point or another, and probably
understand the effects it can bring. The question must be asked: how can
those dealing with the disease cope effectively and live a full life.
From the beginning I want to stress I am not a doctor or therapist, so
if some of you reading this article are under a doctor's care, you need
to follow his guidance only; unless the points in this article match
his/her advice.
First of all I must include a scripture that
might lift up those deep in depression. Isaiah 61 covers almost all the
bases of healing from depression. God sent Christ to bind up the
broken-hearted, give the oil of joy instead of morning, provide beauty
instead of ashes, and other wonderful scriptures that help against
depression. As a coping technique I would recommend reading this passage
of scripture every day, and possibly make it a prayer to God. Ask God to
make this scripture a reality in your life, and eventually you will see
through the depression to hope.
Another fantastic coping skill is
refocusing on another activity; taking all the focus off of depression.
Depression wants to suck the life out of its victim; making him/her
stuck in a dark cloud unable to do anything. When the refocus practice
is put into place, it gives the depression less control in a person's
life. I would challenge the reader to focus on anything pleasurable when
dealing with depression. Since everyone is different, the focus
technique will vary from person to person. I find it enjoyable to write
when I get down; however, other may enjoy sports, exercise, art etc. The
main goal is to completely take the mind off of the depressing thoughts,
and focus full attention on positive thoughts.
One of my favorite
coping skills, when dealing with depression, is thought stopping. The
basic premise around thought stopping is easy: when a negative thought
comes-you stop it! I practice this skill quite often because I have had
so many negative thoughts for years. Sometimes when I'm alone and
surrounded by depressing thoughts, I yell STOP. It may sound silly to
some; however it really does make a difference. The idea behind thought
stopping is to "stop" the negative thought and bring in a positive one.
Thoughts tend to produce feelings, or so I've learned through therapy,
the more positive the thought, the less the depression and negative
thoughts have control.
It is important the depressed make a
routine and stick to it. (A lot of depressed people just want to sleep
the day away) When there is a routine in place; the sufferer has less
time to ponder depressing thoughts, and more time to focus on positive
ones. When depression is out of control it has a tendency to destroy
self-care like: bathing, hanging out with friends, keeping a job, and
other important practices. I have a routine stick on my bathroom window
that keeps me in check, and gives me something to do when depression
strikes. Everyone is different so the practice of setting a routine will
vary, but the payback from setting a routine will be enormous.
Last but not least, I would encourage prayer when one is depressed. It
doesn't need to be obsessive or route; however, a heart-felt prayer can
make all the difference in the world. When you pray just imagine that
weight leaving you, and imagine God taking the depression away. As we
see in Isaiah, Jesus has come to give us joy, peace, happiness, and
love; receive it.
In conclusion, I must stress that I am not a
doctor, and the words on this page should never replace your doctor's
orders. I am just a person who struggles with Bi-Polar and wants to see
others free. Remember, that God is with those who struggle with mental
illness, in fact, He is very close to them. I would like to encourage
anyone dealing with depression; to find a good doctor and therapist to
help out. Ask God to give you the right support system and He will; He
did for me. Depression can be a hard foe to defeat; however, using the
right tools, and having the help of God, anyone can live a happy,
healthy life.
Rob Price