It was a miracle, I tell you. An absolute miracle. We were in the midst
of an 11-hour car trip, and Alexander was done. He was only a few weeks
old at the time, and he had pretty much been held and cuddled his whole
life long. This being strapped into a car seat for hours at a time was
for the birds, as far as he was concerned, and he let us know in no
uncertain terms that he was NOT happy. At first his cries were kind of
sweet and plaintive, and everybody in the car smiled knowingly,
confident that he would soon calm down and go back to sleep.
"He's just been fed and burped, his diaper is clean and dry, he should
be fine," said his mother, Andrea. Alexander is Andrea's first child,
and this was their first long trip together, so they were both very much
in a mode of trying to figure each other out. But already she had a
sense of her son, and she was confident that all would be well.
But it wasn't.
Thirty minutes later Alexander was still crying,
and the rest of us were wondering what was going on. "Do you want me to
pull over?" I asked, aware that Andrea would not take him out of his car
seat to cuddle and comfort him as long as the car was moving.
"No," she said. "Let me try something first."
She leaned up as
close to Alexander's face as she could get, and began to sing to him:
"You are my sunshine, My only sunshine. You make me happy When skies
are gray. You'll never know, dear, How much I love you. Please don't
take my sunshine away."
Now, I need to tell you that I have heard
Andrea sing hundreds of times. We sing a lot in our family -- it's just
something that we do (I'd tell you about our version of "Happy Birthday
to You" were it not... well... indescribable). But Andrea has taken her
singing to another level. She has studied voice. She has worked hard on
her singing in great choirs and as a high school, college and
professional actress. She has sung countless solos in front of huge
audiences.
In other words, Andrea sings.
But I've never
heard her sing quite like how she sang to her baby that night. It was a
new and difference voice for Andrea. It was... I don't know... tender.
Soft. Sweet. Gentle. Which is not to say I've never heard Andrea sing
tenderly, softly, sweetly and gently before, because I have.
But
never quite like this, and never to an audience of one. There was a
quality about her singing that had nothing at all to do with her talent
and experience -- something that touched me as I drove, even though it
clearly wasn't intended for me. I'll just call it what it felt like.
Love.
Alexander began to calm almost immediately. By the time
Andrea had sung through the song three times, he was sleeping.
Comfortably. Peacefully. Miraculously.
Alexander wasn't comforted
by the beauty of his mother's voice, or by her musical skill and
training. He was comforted because it WAS his mother's voice. He knew
it. He loved it. And he knew the owner of that voice loved him.
That's what I heard coming from the back of the car that night. And
that's what we celebrate every Mother's Day.
It's the miracle of
motherhood.
The miracle of love.
Joseph Walker
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