My reunion with my mom in Europe last summer was bittersweet. Although
Alzheimer's had nearly overtaken her entire brain, she still recognized
my wife, children and myself.
Up until that time, my only contact
with my mother was through daily phone calls, and due to her high level
of anxiety, especially where air travel is concerned, we hadn't told her
we were coming. As we arrived, unannounced, at the entrance to the
nursing home where she lives, we called her on the cell-phone. We began
our normal conversation: What are you doing? How is the weather? Etc.,
and then we entered the residents' area where we knew she would be. As
soon as she saw us, a huge smile came over her face.
My mom
wasn't able to communicate much with us during our stay, but she enjoyed
looking at the photos we brought. Most of the time we sat in the
residents' area, watching TV in silence, as even basic, general
conversations was more than her mind could grasp on most occasions. From
time to time though, she would turn to look at one or another of us and
smile.
Interestingly, the night after our first visit, my mother
reported that she had dreamed of our yard in Canada. When she woke up,
she began telling everyone that we had come to take her out for
ice-cream. We were excited by this, for the last time we had visited,
two years earlier, she had refused to leave her chair to venture
outside. The fact that she was initiating a little outing was really
cool!
Being with her was the highlight of our trip, but after ten
days, it was time to say goodbye. As we headed for the door, she became
agitated and anxious. The head nurse stayed with her during this time,
holding her arm and encouraging her. My mother was waving to us with a
big smile on her face as we walked out of the nursing home. It was a
moment I will never forget.
A few weeks after our return to
Canada, she began showing signs of stroke. Nothing acute showed on the
CT scans, and it was assumed she had suffered a mini-stroke, or trans
ischemic attack (TIA). As compared to previous exams, the CT scan showed
significant advancement of the Alzheimer's, and since this time, we were
unable to talk to her on the phone. She didn't understand us, and the
whole concept of a telephone conversation only served to frustrate and
aggravate her.
If she, indeed, experienced a TIA, some initial
improvement of symptoms was anticipated, and people all around the world
began praying for her. We fixed our hopes on God. I am happy to report
that today, for the first time since the TIA three months ago, we were
able to have a conversation with my mother on the phone. A big thank you
to everyone who has been praying for my mother! Your prayers made a
difference!
God answers prayers my friend. My mom is a living
example of that. I am aware that the going will be tough, especially
since we live so far from her. But our eyes are focused on the One who
is renowned for making the impossible, possible. Even after we pass
away, we "will be made alive" in Christ. There is hope no matter what
happens to us, thanks to our Forever friend.
Never lose hope.
Jesus is our hope in all things. Hallelujah!
Rob Chaffart