"Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave
himself up for her" (Eph 5:25, NIV2)
As we entered a souvenir
shop in Inverness, Scotland, we were greeted by a jovial and dynamic
salesman. Noticing that we were tourists, he began telling us stories,
legends and folklore, giving us indispensable advice on what kinds of
souvenirs to bring home to our kids. He even gave us tips on what to see
in the surrounding area.
We were especially intrigued when he
shared with us a place where we could see dolphins. "You are here at the
right time to see them," he explained. "The Salmon are going upstream
right now to lay their eggs. At first the river is deep, but as they go
on, it becomes more and more shallow, especially near the lighthouse.
It's there that you will see dolphins, about an hour before high tide,
playing as they catch their salmon dinners." He then gave us the
directions we needed.
We felt like royalty from the moment we
entered this store. It was evident that we were important to this
salesman. In fact, if we weren't mistaken, he was actually enjoying
making our day brighter.
This is how we should treat our spouse
at all times: As royalty, as though they were the most important person
in the world. True love can only happen when we spend time with one
another, listening attentively to each other's every word, savoring each
other's presence.
The dating isn't supposed to stop when the
marriage vows are said. In fact, that is when it becomes even more
important that we continue to bring flowers, or a book, or anything that
will make them smile. Taking a walk together can become a special treat,
as this is a prime time to share in whatever your spouse has been going
through. We should always be encouraging, always having their best
interest at heart. After all, your spouse should be seen as royalty in
your eyes!
My wife recently made an interesting statement. We
have our kids for about twenty years, but after that they are gone, and
what's left is our spouses. Doesn't this mean that savoring each other
is of even more importance?
Kids will come and go. Sadly, many
marriages feel the stress when children enter their world. Although kids
are precious, too often couples drift apart, for suddenly their hands
are full with care of the child. Don't ever let that happen! Keep your
spouse on the pedestal, especially when there is a new baby in the home.
A couple that savors each other day in and day out will become like
"Salt-seasoning that brings out the God-flavors of this earth." (Matt
5:13a, MSG). And by doing so, we will influence our children, leaving
upon them a lasting impression for their own future marriages. After
all, what better way to learn than by our example!
That salesman
in Inverness knew what was important. It wasn't the goods he was
selling. His clients were the most important of all, and by treating
them as such, he also sold his wares. The same is true with marriages.
As long as we focus on ourselves, love will be fleeting; however, if our
focus is on our spouse, we will experience bliss till the end.
"Honey, would you like to go out on a date? I heard of a new restaurant
in town that will make your mouth water."
"Really? You are such a
sweetheart!"
"Come on! You deserve it!"
Isn't this way
better than: "Honey, where's my wallet?"
"Who do you think I am,
your wallet watcher?"
Love can only bloom when our focus is on
others.
P. S. We were able to see the dolphins chasing the
salmon, and it was incredible. No tourist guides refer to this special
treat. Only a salesman with a heart for his clients made this possible.
Rob Chaffart