Just yesterday I was looking through a photo album filled with pictures
of my children when they were young. I saw the shining faces of both of
my sons as they hugged their mom, genuinely happy to be with her. Oh,
these good ol' days! What I wouldn't do to travel back in time!
Something amazing happens when we treat our children in a loving manner.
When young, they tend to look at us parents as their superheroes. They
admire what we do and often show spontaneous signs of affection, like
hugging us, snuggling against us while reading a book, giving what they
see as tender tokens of appreciation (even if, in our eyes, it's only a
bug!) With an excited: "Take it, it's yours!"
Young children have
a passion for making us smile, and they would do anything to help us
out. Take the time when we were camping in New Brunswick, for example:
My boys woke up well before the rooster crows to prepare breakfast for
us old folks. You should have seen the grins on their faces when we woke
up.
Their love was also definitely shown by how much they trust
us. Even when they didn't know how to swim, when coaxed into the water,
they didn't hesitate to jump right into our arms. I also remember the
time when I was taking care of my oldest son, just five at the time, and
I told him, "All will be well. You will heal!" Before I could finish my
sentence he started praying to our Heavenly Father, thanking Him for
taking such good care of us.
Something strange happens, however,
when they become teenagers. A virus from outer-space seemed to afflict
them, changing their perception. Suddenly, we aren't looking that cool
to them any longer. Trust now has to be earned, but it also has to be
approved by their friends first. We become strangers to them. Now they
know better than we do. In fact most of the time they are certain they
know it all and we know nothing. Little by little, they become more and
more estranged. No more hugs, especially not in front of their friends!
We, as adults, often act like overeager teenagers towards our
Heavenly Father. I guess, we too, have been affected by that
extra-terrestrial bug, the one that seemingly comes straight from hell.
We, too, think we know better. The more we persist, the more frustrated
we become. Soon we find ourselves in unshakeable addictions and/or
nightmarish scenarios, and we blame God for what we are going through.
Our trust is geared towards ourselves. After all, who else has our best
interest at heart? Love becomes an unknown, and this shows in our
marital relationship. Many become estranged from their spouses, always
blaming the other for the problems they are undergoing.
Doesn't
this sound like teenager tactics?
What's worse is that when pride
settles in, it is quite impossible to come near to our Heavenly Father,
for we know what is best and we see Him as a tyrant, One who always
seems to be going against "our" will. Who does He think He is?
Let me answer this question: He is our Father, the One who created us.
Let us put one thing straight: He never rejected us; it was the other
way around, we rejected Him and wandered away from Him to follow our own
hearts. Still our Father pursued us. He didn't want us to be lost for
eternity. Ultimately, Jesus, His Son, came to live with us to show us
the way back home. He willingly paid the cost of our redemption by dying
on a cross, and our debt was fully paid by His grace. He is not only our
Father, He is also our Saviour. He loves us unconditionally.
The
problem is that we are so stuck in our views that we have become
completely blind. We see God as our enemy, and we blame all of our evil
actions to Him, concluding that He doesn't care. Is willingly dying on a
cross to save us proof that He doesn't care? Would we do such a thing
for our worst enemy? Let's be frank here: Who is it who doesn't care?
God? Or ourselves?
The truth is that our pride has blinded us.
The "I" has become our God. "I" know "I" am right. "I" know what "I" am
doing. It's "my" life after all! In other words: "I" am in total control
of "my" life.
May I ask something: Honestly, why aren't we all
that happy? We may pretend to be so, but looking deep down, we can't
honestly declare it to be so. Again, why aren't we happy? Has pride
blinded us completely?
"In his pride the wicked man does not seek
him; in all his thoughts there is no room for God." (Ps 10:4, NIV2)
"Pride goes before destruction, a haughty spirit before a fall."
(Prov 16:18, NIV2)
May we turn back to the fascination we used to
have and see our Father for whom He truly is: My Dad is my Hero! He
loves me to bits and I sure love Him too!
To those belongs the
kingdom!
Thank you God for being so patient with us. Forgive us
for being overactive teenagers at heart. Help us to realize who You
truly are: a Father who is crazy about us; the One who runs to help us,
no matter what our circumstances; the Savior of our souls. You are my
Hero, and I love you. Thank you, Father!
Rob Chaffart